We just like sex more than abstinence
Every day I discuss contraception with patients. While some want contraception for specific beneficial side effects like lighter periods or hormonal balance, more often than not, patients request birth control to prevent pregnancy.
My goal is to find a method that empowers her to be in control of when and if she decides to get pregnant.
“I don’t want to take birth control”
I get it. Taking contraception can be frustrating for many patients. Women don’t want to use contraception for a variety of reasons. Some do not like the idea of having a foreign object such as an arm implant or an IUD (intrauterine device) in their body.
Others do not like the hormonal changes associated with birth control pills. Some gain weight on the Depo-Provera shot. Others experience a decrease in their sex drive when on birth control.
The sperm and the egg do not care what we think
The preference to avoid birth control must be weighed against the desire to avoid pregnancy. I 100% support any woman’s right to choose what she wants to do with her body. If she chooses to be sexually active with men, then it is imperative for her to decide if she is ready and willing to get pregnant. Statistically, 90% of couples will get pregnant within 12 months of unprotected intercourse.
We often have to do things we don’t like to achieve our goals
Throughout our lives, we must make choices. Some are easy, and others are tough. We must be willing to accept certain things that we don’t like to be able to do the things we want. I would love to eat cookies and cake and not gain weight. Unfortunately, the scale in my bathroom does not agree.
We must accept that our actions have consequences
Most prefer the physical sensation of intercourse without condoms. But when we are not in a safe, monogamous relationship the safer choice is to use condoms. Condoms decrease the risk and prevent sexually transmitted infections. We sacrifice some pleasure now to protect ourselves against future problems.
Birth control gives you freedom
If you want to have sex and do not wish to be pregnant, then selecting a birth control method that works for you is a critical step to empower you to be in control of your body. Many argue about which form of contraception is best. My answer is the best birth control is the one that you will use.
There is no right answer for everyone. Finding a method that suits you allows you the freedom to take control of your fertility.
Blog By: Dr. Jeff Livingston